Ambiguous Loss

As I was walking up the stair,
I met a man who was not there.
He was not there again today.
Oh, how I wish he'd go away.

English Nursery Rhyme

Ambiguous Loss defined: physically present but emotionally absent (Alzheimer's) or emotionally present, but physically absent (Divorce).

I have a problem in this area because I am by nature a problem solver. But how do you explain the unexplainable? How do you fix something you had no control over? Why can't I explain exactly what it is that I lost or why I feel the pain I feel? I can't even imagine how emotions so totally opposite can mirror each other so closely. (i.e., you love someone but push them away or don't want someone to leave but want the good-byes to be over) How can I fix something when I can't even tell you what the exact problem is?
I believe the Serenity Prayer must have been written in direct response to someone's Ambiguous Loss.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

You mourn what you have lost, celebrate what you have, improve what you can, and accept the ambiguity of everything else.